((muffy))))))) sorry i havent replied to you earlier on this, my internet acess has been come and go for a long time now.. i want you to know how deeply i feel your pain at not being told about your aunts passing, not a nice thing to be left out of at all.. im sure your cousin had some reason for not letting you know when it happened but i guess she didnt know that it would hurt you being left out like that.. im so very proud of you that you knew the right thing to do when you found out by sending her a card and good wishes.. that i think is the part of you i respect and admire so much, that even tho others seemed thoughtless, you yourself are not at all and knew what the right thing to do was by not getting so angry that you couldnt remember to send love and caring to your cousin... i know you will find peace in your own heart that you have done what you believed in and i pray the others will learn from your kind example.. all my love always dear one