Well, I got up the courage to ask T for a hug. Thanks to all the discussions here about what they would like and everything, I took the chicken approach and asked in an email.

He wrote back that in some situations it would be appropriate. The little me is yelling "hooray", and the adult me is so completely mortified. Now everytime I see T, I'll be wondering if this will be "the time".

It would be nice though, to have one. Thanks everyone.

Mary Alice