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(JD) · May 17, 2009, 10:53 AM

I agree with Septembermorn: you are overwhelmed!

So much going on, and stress might allow you to "know" perhaps what needs to be done, but causes you to be unable to do them. Don't beat yourself up over it.

For most, making a list helps immensely. But I doubt it can be a list on a small piece of paper, but something organized up on a white board with an empty square or circle to check when you have worked on it.

Don't worry about which needs to be done first when making that list, just get everything on there...and you probably won't be able to complete the list in one shot either...but will need to add things as you go through the days.

This phenomena allowed me to learn that it was demands that might not have been rational that ran me through life. I learned a new perspective about things: that some things really don't need to get "done", some things have a time line of their own no matter what I try to do, some things are very important but if they aren't done "on time" generally there is another opportunity to address them (though yes, sometimes there are consequences to being late.)

You can ONLY do what you can do. When stressed as you are, that is very limited. Take time to do good self care, though it may feel as though you are wasting time doing so. This means take a break and do something fun with your daughter.

PS I have never heard any of my dishes complain that they haven't been cleaned all week, nor had a floor that is dirty make me sick. Some things, even though delayed, look and function great once they are "done."