Wonderful answer! I absolutely agree that Fizzax that you need to talk with your mother, to express your concerns not only about her mental health but perhaps more importantly how you feel about all of this, especially her moving near you. That really is the issue as you have set up a wonderful family life and do not want to have that impacted by your mother's issues, or obligations you might feel if she lived there. You can't make her (or anyone) do anything about getting treatment or stopping drinking until they are ready but you can set the boundaries to protect your family life as well as your own emotional state.

It doesn't have to be hurtful but as an adult now, you have the right to express your feelings, thoughts, and concerns, and to be able to set boundaries so you may want to think about those before you talk with her -- figure out what you need and what your family needs, etc.

Family dynamics are never easy are they? Good luck!