In America we have this same sort of sick mindset amoung the sports "elite". Much bad behavior, indeed criminal behavior has been permitted and even condoned by the public. It is disgusting to me that people will not pay decent wages to those who provide "daycare" to infants and small children, but will pay fortunes to sports figures and actors.

I just had a thought or two to share, speculative though these thoughts are. No one who was not present and involved the night of the incident with the footballers and this woman will ever know the "actual" truth. It seems to me that for a woman to be interested in having sex with 2 or 3 men in the same night that there is some kind of problem going on to begin with. (this is strictly my opinion, mind you, based upon my unwanted sexual experiences as a child) For all anyone knows this woman could be someone with DID who had parts who act out sexually. One part could consent to things another would find revolting or repelling.

The bottom line for me will always be that if someone says NO, then the activity should cease immediately. I know that my views on sex and promiscuity are formed by abuse that I may never be able to get completely beyond. I personally think that rape should be a capitol offense, especially the rape of a small child. Being assaulted this way altered my whole life forever in ways I can't remedy.

OK, I stayed up way late tonight, like the past 4 nights and I am tired. I spoke out very strongly in this posting and wonder if I should have maybe said less. However, I am not going to censor myself or censure myself (sorry, word joke) because I wrote exactly what I mean and feel about sexual assault. If I offended anyone, please note it was not intentional. It's just that someone stole one of marriages greatest pleasures and bonding experiences from me before I could even speak and stole ME from my spouse. I've never been free in this area and it has hurt my marriage and actually affected my children's lives because I was too damaged to hold enough conversations with them on the topic of sex and self-worth.

Leaving now, I feel stupid.

Leslie