Just to put this up front, but I'm pretty young, and dont know if you'll feel the need to weigh that in with my response. Also, my I key is broken...

Anyways, I'm in a long distance relationship, and my boyfriend and I often have to find activites to keep us entertained when the other isn't around. Now, I have a list of goals to do before I die, and riding on a motorcycle happens to be one of them. I have no intention of drivng one myself or ever owning one... just want to ride on it. My boss at my old work, when she found this out, told me that next time her SO stopped by work with his motorcycle that he would take me for a ride on it. So, the whole issue of a girl on the back of another guys motorcycle... Yes, it could mean more. But really, if you believe that she was being innocent, then let it go. Who cares what other people think as long as you and her are on the same page about being faithful? Personally, I'd be really upset if my boyfriend started telling me things I should and shouldn't do, just as I'd expect him to be upset if I told him what to do (as long as these things dont hurt or offend the other). He's going to go to parties, I'm going to go to clubs. He's going to go do whatever, I'm going to go ride on a motorcycle.

Also along the lines of a long distance relationshp, (which I understand you're not in), my boyfriend and I had to learn to trust each others judgements. About everything really, but especially about friends. Let her know that you'd like to hang out with these people with her. Dont make it sound lke youre going to interogate these people (you trust her, remember?). You just want to see this part of your fiancee's life, that's all.

To me, it sounds lke youre a little jealous cause you dont get to see your fiancee as much as you would like to. You might want to think about that, and talk to her about it. Perhaps you need to have weekly date, no ifs ands or buts. Just something little that you guys can do every week -- take out and a movie on TV.

I hope you can figure out your insecurities and the root of them. That way you can nip these troubles in the bud.

Best of luck,
Ro