(((((((((jbug)))))))) You are NOT a child, you are a GROWN WOMAN. And you should be treated that way. I think in other posts you've written you mentioned you see a therapist? If so, why don't you ask for help with this situation - how you would put into words, in a loving way, what you want to ask your father about why he handled the situation the way he did.

I'm feel so bad for you that your parents sound so insensitive to your feelings. Just because you need their help doesn't mean they shouldn't be kind and supportive while giving that help to you. Just because you need their help, does not mean they have the right to treat you like crap. Unfortunately, it does mean that if they get angry that you don't accept the way they treat you, they may withhold any help they give you. So you need to be aware of the consequences of what you say to them, and how you act towards them. But that is your decision to make. Take care of yourself.