Thanks Holmes you are a champion as always.......Thats the thing. I am VERY good at setting boundaries now, but sometimes they are tinted with mistrust especially if I feel manipulated, and that has NOT happened on here. That is in real life. I have a VERY sensitive hypervigilance switch. I usually temper it with logic but am short of tolerance at the moment due to physical illness. Many factors at play in my personal life.

As for your wonderful chat, thanks so much for inviting me but I must humbly decline. I am terrible at typing, get overwhelmed by the flow of many conversations and it always sounds "loud". I am sure I will get over it eventually but I am a wuss when it comes to groups!!

Thanks for your support.......