I've had this conversation with a few folks in person.......... and wanted to see how others felt about it in this forum.

Is it apporpriate for a significant other, married or not, but in a committed relationship, to save love letters and notes from a past lover? I mean specifically letters that talk of intimate moments shared and adoring type of letters.
It seems odd that a person would hang onto this if that relationship is long gone and over......and now in a new solid relationship...
seems very hurtful towards your partner to hang onto it.......

I find it incredibly insulting and look at it as emtional cheating, which is way more hurtful I feel, since the hurt person has no real proof, other than some letters. The unknown I guess.......I'm paranoid .....I feel about this......I want to believe it is for some old fond mememory, but it seems so wrong. And on top of this....I would be expected to disolve such tokens right down to furniture from a previous relaitonship......and I fully accept and agree with that...but what if the other person doesn't? Is it an indication of unfaithfulness? Especially if these items are hidden away in a box for safe keeping.
It is the same for old wedding bands and jewelry.....guys chime in if you read this.......how do you feel if your gal is wearing jewelry given by another as tokens or symbols of love?

Am I wrong to feel violated and cheated..especially if I now am the one giving jewelry and writting letters showing my affection etc. How would you feel to find out your signifcant other made a point to remember and keep these kinds of items.....secretly away....Im not saying out in the open for all to read.......??