My daughter is 23 and attends full time college and still lives at home. She doesn't work as she has a full load and dental hygiene school has really taken its stress toll on her. To top it off she has one loser of a boyfriend (4 years off and on). She certainly has unresolved issues with her father never having much to do with her (she was 5 when we divorced). She and I have always had our challenges. From the moment she was born she has been a very stubborn and demanding child. I have allowed her to push my buttons over the years and I can get pretty angry with her. Since she is still living here, I support her completely and it's been a tough time for me because I didn't make much of an income and I lost my job this past January. She has this since of entitlement, my fault I'm sure, but is totally disrespectful to me when she doesn't like something I say. She gets extremely angry and tells me what a ***** I am and will tell me to **** off. About a year ago she said this to me while we were standing in the kitchen and I slapped her across the face. It totally stunned her and she went running off to her room slamming the door behind her. I've always had a problem with second guessing myself but this time, not at all. She needed a reality wake up call. For quite a while I could tell she was very careful when she became angry with me but, it's back. She's super stressed with school, fights with her boyfriend all of the time, and has no real friends to speak of. As she puts it, her life sucks. When she gets into an argument with her boyfriend, she can be heard all over the house and frankly, the rest of us sick and tired of it. My fiance (4 years) lives here and my 20 year old son who is the easiest person in the world to get along with. He's not driven like she is about academics (she has always been an A student and drives herself very hard). My son and I have always gotten a long extremely well and he never gave me the grief that she has so, she views this as I favor him over her. This surfaces often when she's angry with me. I have been supporting her, I've helped her out with school books, new computer, new tires on her car just recently, but it's never enough. The latest saga happened today. Earlier this year she applied for financial aide for school and she had to file as an Independent, meaning, the government did not need my financial information any longer (all based on her lack of funds). She mentioned to me months ago that she was told (other girls at school) that if you claim yourself on your income tax return, you would qualify for more financial aide. Of course I did not allow her to claim herself, why should I? I've supported her entirely and needed to tax breaks due to my current situation. Last week she was told by a financial counselor at school that she qualified for over $5,000 in a pell grant but when my daughter mentioned to her that I had claimed her on my income taxes, she was lead to believe that this was not a good thing. Today she received a letter from school stating that she qualified for $4,000+ in a pell grant. She is furious with me because of course I claimed her and now she won't get the other $1,000 she was told she would get. She says that I don't care about her education and that she needs all the money she can get. Now I'm greedy, I do whatever I can to make her life miserable and I don't care about her. She threw a temper tandrum screaming and yelling at me and told me that I was ****ing selfish. There is no talking to her. It's all about her and always has been. I told her I was done - no more financial help from me. I even told her if she didn't like it she needed to move on out. I walked up to her and wanted to slap her but all I did was point my finger at her and tell her to stop speaking to me in such a disrespectful way and this is when she told me to get my ****ing finger out of her face. I walked away and retreated to my bedroom. I'm at a loss. I honestly don't know what to do and she will be here one more year. The rest of us in this house can't take her up and down mood swings and her defiant disrespectful behavior. She can be so sweet and fun to be around and then can turn on a dime. I'm very worried about her. Anyone been here before? HELP!!