Oh, Peaches

You know I struggle with the same thing, and that's why I am having such a hard time leaving my T. It's like she "shattered my dreams." Is that the way you feel too?

It's such a difficult realization, and it is SO painful, but I think we have to accept it before we can move on. I can't tell if you are bitter, though, or angry with your T. I am angry with mine for not being albe to fill that hole, but I understand that she can't. Your T is there for you, allowing you to attach to her, but I know she wants you to be able to become independent and meet a lot of those needs yourself. We only have ourselves; we can't rely on anyone else.

treehouse and Luce: Your responses helped me too.
mouse: Can you (Peaches, hope I'm not hijacking your thread) say who can fill the hole? Do you mean spouse and friends? How can you get what you never received?