notme: "It's not about her". That's so important to realize. Peaches, that's been a big part of the problem. We've wanted our therapy to be about HER and US, about our relationship. Yes, we've wanted our Ts to fill us up. We've wanted THEM to make us feel good, to give us what we missed. It's a fine line beween T being there for us, and being there TOO much for us. I know you think my T has been too harsh with me about this, and maybe so, but her goal is for me to realize that it's about ME, not about HER and ME, and not about her filling me up. I've intellectually known that for a long time, but the needs are so strong that I have always fought her on it.

I appreciate this thread, Peaches. I have confidence that you can gain strength from your pain. How about writing a poem as a way to acknowledge your feelings now?

I hope you are not planning to push your T away. I'm a little concerned about that.