We just had to write a rather personal paper in grad school... the prof is a PsyD and was teaching justice, leadership, forgiveness. Last paper i'd gotten a point less for not talking about how I personally had asked someone to forgive me. Which stung - how can i ask that of my fam when they are the perps who hurt me?!?! Anyway, i wrote about having DID, it's difficulties, my daily struggles in reference to leadership, and how l learned that it is myself i need to forgive mostly. Anyway, her comments were very supportive and enlightening....

"Kiya, having a dissociative Identity disorder is something you have been diagnosed with – something you live with and struggle with, but it doesn’t define your worth as a human being., anymore than someone who has migraines, or diabetes.
"Fathers don’t treat their children in this way – regardless of how frustrated they feel. Forgiveness does not mean you have to reconcile with your offender.
"You are hardest upon yourself – be generous of spirit with yourself and the other pieces will begin to slowly fit together."

Maybe it her comments to me will help others here