(((((((((((((Silver)))))))))))) First, please know that what you're going through is normal and your fears completely understandable. I had have similar experiences to yours, so I know how hard it is to get a ob/gyn exam. Because of the abuse, I suffer from a condition where under stress my muscles down there contract, ie i have anxiety attacks upstairs and downstairs.
The tricks that work for me when getting an exam:
- make sure I trust the dr enough to share that I suffered abuse. It is hard to tell but you don't need to get into details about the abuse itself. Just giving them a general idea is enough. I have found with all my drs that telling is the hard part. Once they know, they will be happy to work with you and take extra steps to make you as comfortable as possible.
- I'm more comfortable with a female ob/gyn.
- having a friend or relative there to talk to and hold your hand works to distract the mind of what's going.
- take deep breaths to try to relax your body willl make it easier to complete the exam.
- if at some point you need a break, that's OK.
- take your ipod with you and focus on the music and your breathing.
- believe or not, they can get it done pretty quickly. It will be over before you know it. The most important part is to try to relax that part of your body.
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Originally Posted by Silversparrow
I"m getting scared, and worried, I wasn't sure where to put this, but since it relates to my s.a. abuse I figured here would be the best
I"m terrified to go to the doctor Tuesday, it's my first "woman check" ever I know I"m going to be triggered and I might switch (which would be incredibly bad) or I might float off to lala land.
I asked my mom to go with me for support*insert foot into mouth here* and now I want to ask her to not got, for fear of what might be said or what might happen. I don't want her finding out about the abuse through the mouth of my little or through me being well dissociated and running on auto pilot.
I have another fear and well concern, and I feel so silly for even thinking of it, or well considering it as a theory.
I've always had problems down there and with being regular, it's not something that is common with the women in my family, and I don't have any medical conditions that would cause this nor do I take medicine that would cause that either.
My fear is because of the abuse I suffered and because he did rape me as a child..is that when the doctor looks there she will be able to tell and that it is the reason behind these issues. I don't know if that is even something that could really happen or not, but I don't know what to do
I"m scared, this is bringing up a lot of fear for me, I don't know what to do, I really don't 
Somebody help me....  |
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