[quote=Silversparrow;1027887 I find it hard to trust men who are attracted to me, If a man tells me I am pretty I freak out and freeze or have to make an excuse to leave the situation immediately, or I believe they are lying to me so they can use me. I am either friends with a guy and if not then that man makes me uncomfortable.
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Sparrow,

Thank you for sharing your personal experience!

Just yesterday I noticed that I have a destructive pattern, which only contributes to my misery. I am not good at establishing and maintaining appropriate boundaries. The result is a man becoming to close way too fast and I freak out. For years, I have ignored that alarm, not trusting my instincts. The result is dissociation. While I may want male and female friends, my divulging too much info of myself to a small percentage of people, is a big mistake. It only attracts a man who simply wants a piece of arse. I know that I don't want anything sexual, cause just the thought freaks me out! But, perhaps that's the only way I've ever known to develop a relationship?? It's sad to realize that I'm responsible for my own misery.

Shez