I agree, notme. I really liked what Luce said, but I agree with you too. Your post helped me realize how far I've come, if I stop to think about it. I HAVE reached the point of reaching out to others instead of my T, and realizing that what I want from her is based on unmet needs from the past. I'm reaching out to others, but it's slow, like a snail. I go 2 steps forward, fall on my face, and want to run back to my T to make it all better. But she, knowing I'm capable of being independent, doesn't let me cling to her. I go back out and make more connections in real life. I'm doing that now. Wow. I think I'm getting it--but it's so easy to want to slip back into relying on my T.

So, thanks for your posts, notme and Luce.

But, Peaches. How are you? Where are you? I'm concerned. Please post and tell us how you are.