Did your husband experience combat or worked in the combat zone, OEF or OIF? If so, it's possible he is unable to adjust to family life without counseling. If he has undiagnosed PTSD, he should not be going to Iraq. Is he out (or getting out) of the military? Is he National Guard or Reserves, etc.?

It doesn't really matter how much money you make . . . spending always increase as income increases . . . making more money doesn't solve debt problems. Spending has to change.

Can't take daughter to military medicine?