I don't like the choices my husband has made. If he had never gone active financially we would be fine. Him going active ruined all of our plans and has made him a pain to deal with. I hear I'm a man I'll decide so many times. Before he left he had respect for me. The way he speaks to me now would never have happened two years ago. Active duty has changed him. That's not the point. We have to make the choice of him going to Iraq or staying home. If he stays we have to sacrifice and struggle to survive. He goes he misses part of our daughters life once again. He wont be here to watch her grow. And he's at risk of some many different dangers. But we can provide a much better life for our daughter. Either way we have to make changes. To push the matter more. If he stays home in the next year he goes to Iraq with his unit If not sooner. A lot less money just as much danger and still no guarantee for safety. Oh and for a longer duration eighteen months atleast. This is what has pushed my husband to this option of Private Security. Either way he goes' to Iraq.