Please think ... how would he feel if something happened to you? I have tons of empathy for both of you... do you think people here are going to support what you are risking? Please, somehow, get yourself out of this situation. This man is drowning and will pull you under, although I'm sure that is purely a survival instinct and doesn't realize how his actions are affecting you. It appears that the VA is involved, helping him... who is present for you? I want you to be safe. Please keep safe. if that is safe