I think those are very good questions. I know I have struggled with some of those myself, and I really don't have a good answer.

I just know that what I am working on in therapy is talking through these issues and trying to see, hear, and feel the truth. I think the truth for each of us is somewhere inside us, but it gets hidden by all of our "stuff". And it gets influenced by others and by our experiences.

Sorry I can't be more helpful. Those are pretty profound questions.

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