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May 24, 2009, 04:55 AM
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Member Since: May 2009
Location: TRUCKEE, BA
Posts: 11
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 I don't love him like I did in 1975. we married in '76. Now we are more like brother and sister (in my mind). I filed for legal sep. last Aug. I now have a small inheritance and want to remodel our 2nd home in Truckee where I intend to spend the rest of my days. I know I need to have my Attorney write up a special form for him to sign so that I don't get screwed for improvements that I have made.
So, one of my delema's is that I am recovering from surg. I miss my awesome Rosie-dog (that I adopted last July. She had been severily abused in her 1st 5 months of life.
I am recovering, post-op, am not allowed to lift or strain my body. The property in Silicon Valley is worth more money, but also has a much larger amount owed on it. My husb.(sep)is supposed to be here to help me recover. He has no patience with Rosie so I had to board her ($40 a day x 14). We were married for 32 years and still he can not help me unless I come short of begging and even then it is questionable that he will support me.
I love him, but no longer as a lover (I believe he feels the same way).
My Psych. say's divorce him, get on with your life.
He has heart prob., I insist to him that divorce doesn't mean we still can't support one another and be 'friends'. He see's NO reason to divorce.
I want to file for divorce, support my own life and ethics in this world, How do I do this without deflating him?
Post-op I have very little support. I can't wait to get back to work - where my peers care and want to take care of me.
After 32 years how can I still be caught up in this? Any advice?
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