"Anyone with similar stories who wants to commiserate?" Yes. Here are some thoughts:

Thanks for starting the group Candybear. On your behalf and on mine and the others we would like to join in on your grrrrrs.

Our measuring stick is quite different than the others in our family of origin. So much measuring done by their measuring sticks results in negativity toward others. It's how they have lived their whole life. So, lovingly without reservation we move closer to those who care, respect and honour us. It's proved to be the best antidote to the viciousness and at times neglect.

We find here at PC quite a lot of the latter. It is quite remarkable the difference! It makes belief in this search for 'caring individuals' that much more delightful.

Here is a bunch of caring for you

H