Every year I go and have an regular physical exam at my family doctor's office.

While the doctor is performing a Pap test/Pelvic exam I tend to tighten up or tense up down below and don't relax. I experience alot of discomfort and pain while my doctor is performing the tests/exams.

For me down below is a very private region of my body and it is an odd out of body experience for me to have someone that close to my body. Even though it is not a sexual situation just a professional medical situation I still tense up and cannot relax. I worry about the shape and size of my vagina (is it too large or is it too small), do I have too much pubic hair or should I shave it down a bit, do I smell offensive down below even though I have showered and cleaned myself......list goes on!

How do you make yourself feel more at ease or comfortable while getting an Pap test/Pelvic exam? And what is the general standard for the apperanace of your pubic hair (full bush? no bush? small barely there bush?)