WI - I have been on this site for about 6 weeks now I think and have followed your posts. I TRULY believe that you being on meds would look BETTER if your husband tries to take the kids , than if u were not on them and it came out that you have depression issues. It shows that you are trying to help yourself, which in turn, helps your children. IMHO I think you are giving too much credit to your EX husbands distorted thinking and his absurd ideas ( He doesnt want his own children taking antibiotics if they NEED them??? Where did he get his Medical Degree??????). He sounds very twisted, controlling etc, he is in serious need of help himself ! I hope that you keep a detailed journal of such issues with him, and look back at them and see how foolish he sounds !

As for your daughter's graduation - I wish I could attend it with you (and I am sure MANY here wish the same thing), not only to see the PRIDE in your face, but to see the PRIDE and JOY in your daughter's face cause her Mommy is there !!!!! (And perhaps we could all glare at the EX and have him wonder where all these people came from that ARE your friends and DO care about you !!!! Please do not allow him - his family, his circle of friends etc to prevent you from attending this important milestone in your daughters life. DONT give him that power !!!!! Hold your head up high, stay clear of them as much as you can, and enjoy the moment - pretend there is no one there except for you and your daughter if it helps you get thru it.

Another thought - altho typically I dont think its a good thing to "keep secrets" - but IMHO - I would avoid telling your children you are taking medication - IF you think he is going to find out thru your children, and you dont want him to know - BECAUSE this is putting the children in the middle and he needs to be smacked around a bit for doing that !!!!!!!!! You state you know you are better on meds.....so take them, feel better, function better, etc. Not only for you (which is foremost) but for your children. I have truly never known a Court or Judge to take away children from a functioning, clean, caring, loving Mother because she takes an anti depressant. Try and think of it in the same terms as the diabetic who has to take insulin to function......because it truly IS the same - you need an antidepressant to function better.........there is NO shame in that.

Again, IMHO - the sickest people are those who do not take advantage of what is available to them....and you are NOT one of them !!! Good luck !!! ANd I truly do wish everyone on this site could go with you to that graduation !!!