Okay, JayS, I feel i may have overstepped the mark here.......I am not a therapist and used the term as a loose expression of what I THINK you might be experiencing, not what I KNOW. Sweetie, I am so, so sorry. i did not want you to take it seriously in the context of psychotherapy, more I felt that that expression may bring you part of the answer to how you are feeling from a laypersons point of view.

I was using it it terms of MY understanding of what transference means from having many years of therapy and the reason it was brought up in therapy so often is because I was constantly doing it. I will supply a link on the meaning of it and you can make up your own mind about what you think. Sometimes I can be more honest than what is appropriate.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Transference

I am so sorry if I hurt your feelings or made you feel "victimised" by this very impersonal term. You are intitled to feel how you like, no one can judge you, I guess I just saw you suffering and it broke a little bit of me.....I mentioned this with the greatest of intentions.

Please forgive my indiscretions.......