Honesty? Sounds like he's a controling pig. If it isn't want he wants you don't get squat. Apparent he feels you have to put with whatever horror your husband wants to be on bro's good side. Did he pick hubby for you? May he has a 'special bond ' with your ex and is upset ......i dunno begining to ramble....still a douche bag tho!!! Grrrrrrrrr