It is very true to form what you are going through. i have done this over 200 times and each time i feel like a new piece of a puzzle is placed into an empty space. When i learn more about them-idenities with Names, emotions, ages, likes and dislikes, their own personal memory they've hung onto for over 50 years-i come to the understanding of myself a piece at a time. It's like looking into the mirror after you've taken a hot both or shower--you can't really see yourself. But if you put your finger on any part of the mirror, the fog leaves that spot. Then another spot is cleared and another and so on. Someday you'll finally see that person the fog was hiding and all the traits that were meant to be-YOU!!