It can take more than one try, even lots of tries, to find the right therapist for you. I'm on my 8th one, and there are times I'm mad at her. But I am still seeing her after almost 5 years now. She understands me. And she cares.

If you are able to get a referral from someone who knows a good therapist, that's a good way to start. But they still might not be the best for you. You can also interview several therapists, and go with the one you feel the best about. You do have the right to make some choices. That was something I didn't understand before.