dead_man welcome to psychcentral (PC),

I am also in agreement with wi. I would also add that you could start doing research on the subject using the search engine on your computer. There are so many sites that cover any subject & questions that you have. I used the computer to research my Mothers cancer & conditions that would happen after surgery...they were right on. I found that you look at hundreds of sites & pull out the information...when several sites say the same thing, you probably have good information.

I do know how your wife feels when she thinks you don't believe her because she may not believe herself at times. When I was going through the trauma that happened last year with the home care RN for my Mother, I was telling my Pdoc, psychologist, & husband about the things that were happening. I got looks from my husband that he didn't believe what I said & comments from my Pdoc that I wasn't able to see things clearly because of the massive weight loss I was having. I know I felt like I was going crazy all during this time because things would disappear right under my nose & would be found only when the RN started looking for them too. I also saw her following me in my car on my way to the police station. I had to be going crazy....I never had any problems with being paranoid in my life....I am always the one in reality. I am glad I focused on what happened because I dod go to the police & they assured me that I was correct about her. Unfortunately, she successfully avoidid them in being caught.

It sounds like your wife does have a REAL problem since it is not a one time occurance & is affecting her daily functioning & relationship with you. It is good that you are aware of this, & sounds like she really needs help (not like me where it really was happening). It is great that you are there to support her & hope that with any information you gather, you can find a way to encourage her gently to get the help she needs. It is hard being in the position where you can see something happening & progressing all the time while ruining your relationship. It is also hard because you can't force help on her either since she is considered to be competent to make her own decisions. I am sure that even your gentelist suggestions come across as an attack. It is a tough situation to be in & maybe a professional can give you some suggestions on what you need to do to help.

I is good to get feedback from the people here....there are many that can give you insights to what you are going through, especially under the specific forum that deals with these issues. I hope you get some information that can set you onto the right path.

Please keep us updated....people here are the greatest for advice, sympathy, & just an ear to listen with,

Welcome again,
Debbie