Thanks for the advice. I would never literally lock him in a dark room by himself i just feel like it sometimes. He does have a bedtime routine that he sticks to SOMETIMES he has to have a warm choclate milk (its very very weakly flavoured) has to watch a car racing dvd and he usually goes to sleep within 20mins. But lately he has just turned feral again. This is my first child (and last lol) so im doing the best i can to try and do the right thing. It doesnt help that he is spoilt and wants everything his own way. I dont spoil him its my mum and dad and they let him get away with murder. So this just means he pushes my buttons more and i have a very very short fuse and are easily angered and stressed. I try my hardest not to get cranky at him but sometimes i cant control it. Oh my god ive just gone completely off subject. Sorry not having a good nite with remembering what im talking about