Thank you all so much for all the heart-felt replies.
Wow!!! I feel so much less alone now!!!

I think my biggest fear is that one day, for what ever reason,
I will lose my co-consciousness or she will want to come through so
bad that I won't be able to control her and "maintain a front" around
the right people (namely family) and just the thought of that *gulp*
scares the bejezus out of because there is no telling what would be said if that happened.