Hi,

i would just like to add that, while i don't know much about EMDR "guidelines", i share your experience with expecting to do it only to have a T back out. The biggest problem i see here (as with me) is a failure to adequately explain why. At the same time, if you (or i) are in a panicky space, it's hard to hear what's being said even if an explanation is given.

The T i went to just for this purpose was very encouraging about all we could do and then three sessions in said she was uncomfortable doing it because i may have a violent alter. Now THAT was inappropriate phrasing on her part and rather naiive if you ask me--plus, i have ddnos not DID and people with DID don't necessarily have a violent alter anyway.

My point in all this is just to say that professionals are just as capable of being idiots or well meaning people who "open mouth insert foot". i know you were looking forward to this treatment (as was i cuz i'm very frustrated with running around in circles in my head) but i hope you find something more suitable for you that works for you.

Much peace and goodness to you and yours.