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K...we have been talking with the father via email for the last few weeks. Our system has been tolerating this well and coping well.
The father lives in a different State than us, which is a relief, and we don't think he knows where abouts we live. He has a history of being physically, emotionally, and sexually abusive.
We have tried this before...to communicate with him and try and talk about bad times in an attempt to get some acknowledgment and validation for his behaviors and for our pain.
It's really stupid cause most of us know we can't change him and we don't really want to anymore, but one of us...we're not sure who...is hell bent on getting justice for ourselves and can't stop communicating with him.
We are not sure about who is doing it. None of us are and we are wondering if this is a part we don't know about because they're not familiar to us.
Who ever it is, they've been doing a good job being respectful and keeping their cool under the pressure and mind games that the father is playing, but the father is starting to get really angry. The more calm we all stay and the less we let him affect us, the angrier he is becoming.
The biggest problem here is that the littles are starting to get scared. They want to pull away and hide from his anger and are afraid he is going to come after us and hurt us, but this part won't stop communicating with him...it's like they're obsessed.
Not sure what to do about this, but it's making a lot of us nervous!! Don't know why I'm posting this? I guess I just need to get it out.
What if he comes after us...?
Tosh
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