Hiya.

I have just picked up on this thread tonight. I guess I don't know the whole story (because part of it has been deleted etc) but it sounds to me like you are struggling with the very thing that I struggled with at this site.

This site is about support.
That is the main idea.
And so the rules are about keeping it safe and supportive.

And so threads get deleted if they are seen as distressing...
And threads get locked if they are seen as being likely to escalate...
And conflict is avoided
Deleted
Curbed
So the boards remain a safe place for people to support one another.

So.
If you are looking for support
And want a safe environment then this place is terrific.
I would highly reccomend it to anyone who was looking for that.

If you want to understand why people get upset
If you want to learn more about how to deescalate conflict situations yourself
If you want to learn more about how to have a controversial discussion without offending or upsetting others
If you want to learn to better manage your upset
Then that is beyond the scope of this site.

But there are other sites out there,
SItes that may be more along the lines of what you are looking for

Hug.
If you like.