Well I am glad that a lot of you have the kind of therapist I have. I know friends who have therapists who are much more distant and not as hands on as mine. My therapist says that in the 37 years she has been practicing it has never been helpful to reject a client by either not hugging them when asked, calling them back on the phone when they need to talk, accepting a gift, or just plain being a real person - I think that is what helps me the most. I feel safe because I know her. She is guenuine and that is just plain scary to me - yet comforting...