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eskielover · May 30, 2009, 11:44 PM

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Originally Posted by BiscuitTin

Thanks, I too am getting help from the state's vocational rehabilitation service . . . so far they have been pretty useless, but things should improve now that I have a permanent case manager. Maybe.

The motivation is still lacking, plus I continue to not shower or shave on a regular basis.

What kind of situation did you go through, Futz?

Makes more sense now that you say this....why your parent kick you our of bed for laying around until 10am......if you can't get the motivation yourself to get out do something.....they are just having to give you the kick in the rear you should be giving yourself.

You seem to have a more serious problem that you are dealing with in your mind.....your health issues that were in your mind are what you are using as your reason for not being independent.....sometimes when we really don't want to do something, our minds can take over & find some reason why we can't do something with the reason not really existing (psychosomatic) so we don't have to do something we don't want to do....leave home & get a job & become independent......when we are so afraid of doing what it is we have to do, we create situations so we don't have to do them until it's found out the reason doesn't really exist.......when the fear is so great, it causes stress which in turn either causes an illness, or in imagined illness to prevent us from having to do what we are afraid of or just don't want to do.

Sometimes therapy helps to get down to the reason for that fear....why you feel the inability to go out & be independent, to be responsible for yourself......once the reason for that becomes clear, then progress can be made to overcome the problem & get on with your life.....this post is making is much more clear why your parents are pushing you out of the house....

I hope you can resolve your internal problems that are causing you so much fear about being a responsible independent person.....sometimes there are issues where we haven't matured enough to feel ok with that.....but these are issues that only a therapist can really help with....thinking you & your family need serious help on this issue. At the age of 31, you are no longer the child you seem to want to continue to be.....like there is a fear of growing up......but as I said.....this is something only a therapist with analisys can help come up with the answer.....can only make observations & ask questions from this point of view.

Best wishes....hoping you can resolve your problem,
Debbie