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Originally Posted by sunrise
An important step to take if there is the slightest chance divorce or separation is in the future is to familiarize yourself with all of the family finances, accounts, debts, assets, etc. Actually, even if divorce is not in the offing, it is good for anyone to do this. Every spouse should be aware of family finances.
If your H were to keep working, you would definitely be able to receive spousal maintenance. Since it sounds like he may not plan to work (is that right? or can he draw the military retirement if he is employed?), I am not sure if you could get maintenance because presumable his income would take a big cut. I suggest you see a lawyer right away to learn about all of this. There may be some important timing issues. It's always good to have information, even if you don't plan to act on it. Just in case...
I'm sorry this is happening. Does your H want a legal separation or just to live separately but still remain married, supporting you and the kids, etc.? I think you're really smart to be trying to get the info now.
I don't know what JAG is, but if it is a legal resource, might be worth looking into.
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I am the one that handles the family finances so I am familiar with all that I just dont know exactly what his retirement is considered other than him getting out after 20 yrs.
Since he will only be 40 yrs old once he leaves the Army yes he will have to continue working cuz his retirement wont cover all the expenses and he can still get that retirement even if he works another job.
Well I dont think he wants to go the legal route yet. What he wanted to do was to get his own place for a short amount of time to figure out what it was that he wanted to do so yes he did still plan on supporting me and the kids while he was taking his "space". Its weird and confusing for me cuz other than my emotional issues (which I am currently in therapy for and back on my anti-depressants) and my jealousy issues I dont feel he has any good reason to want to be seperated from me and the kids. He has mentioned our marriage being stale and us growing apart but yet he isnt willing to work on things to fix that and I think that it would be easily fixable. Ive told him how I ma more than willing to do whatever it takes and I just wished he would see it that way also!!!
So Im just trying to be prepared.....
JAG is a the military law/lawyer stuff but like I said we arent on a military base so dont see how that would be too helpful....