My goal when I went to therapy with my current T was to get unstuck. I was stuck and could not move forward with my life, which meant getting a divorce. I was terrified of all that--just the thought of telling my H I wanted a divorce totally panicked or froze me. So we worked in therapy on getting unstuck. This involved doing a lot of work on past trauma because T said that was why I was stuck. It's been a long road, over 2.5 years and I have definitely gotten unstuck and made a huge amount of progress on my divorce. We are not done yet with the D, but almost.

T and I talk occasionally about life goals rather than therapy goals. We talked about this almost a year ago and T wanted to know what I was going to work on in my life, what I was going to do and be. I thought and said what I most wanted to work on was my relationship with my daughter. So T helped me get started with that by hooking me up with a colleague of his who is a family therapist who works with teens. My D and I did family therapy with him for about 9 months and just ended therapy. We made some important gains and will keep the work up on our own. So now, I am wondering, what is the next goal I will attack in my life? And when I define that, I will see if T can help with it.