[quote=Dinah;1036076]But you've also experienced a good therapist and how helpful one can be. I noticed that you were doing very well under T2. I don't know how you experienced him in session, but I experienced him, through you, as being a very good therapist.

HI DInah,

He was a good therapist in some cases, he helped me through my brother's death and with my first granddaughter who died at 28days all that happened at the same time.

But he didn't do so well with the amount of disclosure he used during my sessions. It was good "T training" at being a humanistic T, that I am grateful for , but it interfered with my personal therapy though. But it also made it hard to tell him what I needed to about my stuff, because I was afraid of hurting him. Then I had to confront him about his medical problems, which he was being delusional about, that it was affecting our sessions because he couldn't remember anything. And telling a T who is already past retirement age who is still working because he feels he can still do good with people, that he isn't doing so good and that what I am telling him is probably be the end of his career was excruciating painful for me. He didn't want to believe me then, and now I hear he is truly retiring now.
THen the whole thing he couldn't work with me about my anger about what my T1 did to me with his sexual counter-transference, because it reminded him of a time he had to terminate a client prematurely for the same reasons. I reminded him of that pain that he knew his client had to go through when he terminated them. Plus T1 and him were very close colleagues, which makes me suspect about the whole thing too.

I am just tired of looking for a good T, there should be a abundant of them out there, don't ya think? Maybe I need to go out of town to find a T who isn't a part of my unethcial T1 groupy fan club.