I can really identify with this. Early on, I went in to T and told her about a very upsetting conflict I had with someone

and when I finally ran down I said, of course I am just givnig you my side of it - and to my utter amazement, she said, that's all I need to hear - I said, but what if I am entirely biased in my telling of it? she said, doesn't matter. that's how little i knew about what goes on.
I am still resistant to "attachment". Push pull, atsa me.
Growing up I had my biggest problems with my mother, and T, a woman, has left discussing Mom till last; sometimes I spend time worrying that the only "transference" I could have for her woudl be very negative, and would end therapy. guess I ought to ask her about that........