This topic is very interesting to me, I really appreciate everyone being so open about their feelings and experiences.

When I was in therapy for depression, I didn't feel any attachment with that therapist. It was very short-term, though, only 9 sessions.

I don't have any attachment yet to this therapist (and I've only been seeing her less than 2 months), but I wouldn't be at all surprised if I one day develop those feelings. Growing up, I didn't get some of my needs met by my mother, so there were times when I sought out other mother figures - most were healthy relationships, but one was not, when I was 12 and considered suicide. I became rather obsessed with this woman, a teacher of mine, after she showed me warmth and compassion. I fear that it's in me to become too attached to my T and to see her as another idealized mother figure, but I don't yet feel like it's an issue, so I don't want to bring it up and talk with her about it. I've already discussed with her my relationships with these other surrogate mothers, though I haven't gone into as much detail as I could have. And now, I'm at the point where I want to share my first big 'secret', and it's scary!!! Maybe there is some attachment going on to T, because I don't want to disappoint her. Why does therapy have to be so complex?