I said something similar to a therapist once and she told me that when a person has been drinking is when they are the most truthful. my mother used to tell me things like "you should have **** at birth like you were supposed to when she had been drinking." I told my therapist she only says things like that when she is drunk and that is when I was told that when someone is drunk their inhibitions are down and say exactly how they really feel. It is scary to think that they can really thank and do those things when they are drunk and really mean it. I agree with the others that you should get some counseling. you cannot change her but you can change you!!!

Vanessa