My t says that she has learned alot from me. She didn't tell me what (I was sort of afraid to ask!!). But I'm guessing that it is because I have such a complex set of issues. I haven't responded to any of the shorter, quicker-fix approaches she knows. And in order to help me, she has had to read books and attend seminars to find out more ways to help me. So I'd say that I've increased her overall knowledge base for clinical work.

Also, I once told my t that when we have a problem and are able to talk things over and work it out, that it makes me feel really good. She said that when this happens, she also feels "gratified."

I have also told her how important she is in my life, and I'm sure for any therapist, it has to be at least a bit of a boost to the ego.