Thread: DBT gives me PTSD
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Old Jun 01, 2009, 08:04 PM
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(((((Orange)))))

I know what you mean about some of the models and methods in Linehan's book. It felt like manipulation to me too when I originally started. That's what had me running away screaming the first time.

I guess the therapy was manipulative in a way but it was like using powers for good and not evil. It isn't an in your face kind of manipulation...but I don't know if that makes a difference or not. I was frustrated quite a bit with my primary DBT T because of the methods he used from time to time, but I really learned the most from the group T which is where they taught us the strategies of emotional regulation, distress tolerance, communications skills and others.

As for mind games...I HATE them. My family was very emotionally abusive towards me and my brother and mind games were the norm. The rules always changed. There was never any safe or stable ground. I agree with you all...it truly does suck!!

Can I join you and Pom at coffee with Linehan.....


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Originally Posted by Orange_Blossom View Post
{{{ Elysium and her T }}}

I need to clarify my response. I was referring to the actual style of therapy, meaning I would run from the process not from T. If someone treated me like Linehan outlines treatment in her book, I would've walked out!

I was reading her "strategies" and it just seems like a bunch of manipulation to me. Like where it says, T oscillates intensity of emotions or T uses silence or T weaves a web. That crap is game-playing in my eyes.

Does that mean everything they say, everything they do is planned out instead of just being genuine caring people? Is the therapeutic relationship a big fat scam? ARGH! You can call it fear cuz it is!!

Anyway, it wasn't about your T. I'm glad she saved you!


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