I think some of my strongest gains from therapy have come in the relationships area. I am better able to have them now, both with T and others in my life, and I recognize how important they are. I place more value on them and also am more willing to work on them. I am not sure I could have had such a fruitful relationship with my T if I hadn't been attached.

I see my attachment to T as a very positive thing. Sometimes I see people on PC talk about attachment to a therapist like it is bad or to be avoided, but for me, it has been very healing. It has also demonstrated to me that I still can attach. I never thought about it much, but I think inside I worried I was somehow damaged by my 20 year relationship with my H (no attachment there), and could not really attach after this. Too hurt, too bruised, too untrusting, too wary, no way doing that again Jose! But I attached very readily and strongly to my T, showed myself I could do it and do it well! To me, this means there is hope for me in the future to have a healthy relationship with a man. Without attachment to T, I don't think I would have learned any of this, and might still be depressed. I think when a client attaches to a T, the T knows they have a lot of potential to work with, and very positive directions open up.