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Originally Posted by chaotic13
I think one fear that attachment causes in me is the feeling that I am more likely to cross a boundary that shouldn't be crossed.
IDK, for me if I don't care or don't trust someone my personal boundaries and sense of what I should and shouldn't or allow are very clear and it is easy for me to be decisive about what I want and don't want from an interaction.
With T and possibily with this other relationship it is uncomfortable and basically intended to challenge my existing boundaries. This scares me because I not only feel vulnerable I AM vulerable. Not sure if that makes sense. Justs makes me want to say disconnected and safe from harm.
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Makes total sense. I used to have a nice thick wall around me that kept me safe and kept everyone away but it was really lonely inside this. I was able to take down these walls and replace them with flexible boundaries that I could move back and forth easily as needed for intimacy or protection, whichever was needed............
Explore this vulnerability and your skills at protecting yourself as needed?