There's also, for me, the "sense" of the other person as themselves and at the same time interacting with me? It's a true meeting of two people and both know what is going on and are working together, etc. The first few times understanding was instinctual but now it can be "seen" and "understood" (if I say/do this, the other will say/do something like that and if the other says/does something like that, I'm feeling something like this) and that understanding is of the actual, real world and money in the emotional toolbox bank!