I've talked a few time with my T about not crying when I thought others expected me too. I've never come right out and said...I want be be able to cry but I have said numerous times that I want to be able to express emotions when when appropriate like "normal" people do. My T has kind of challenged the perspective that others notice when I don't cry or get emotional about things. She says others don't really care about such things... But my experiences say otherwise. Others notice and they've asked me about it at times.

My T notices when I show signs of emotions. However she never makes an issue of it unless I raise it. Once I really felt like the feeling "authentic" me came to therapy and I wrote her an email after the session that simply said... I was there today, did you see me? To which she replied YES, welcome! and listed the things she saw.

In my case if I ever become visibly on the verge of crying...My T mentioning this would make me feel uncomfortable and it wouldn't likely happen again in the near future.