No, I was clueless. I had a previous therapist off and on for 6-9 months before this T, and had no attachment to her at all. But I didn't know I was supposed to attach to her, so I didn't think anything was missing. After a while, I quit going to see her because I had reached the limit of her ability to help me. The first session with the new T was very different from the previous T, and I was very intrigued by him, as he said he was healer, not a therapist. It took us a month to have another session and during this time he left me a voice mail saying, "I look forward to helping you heal," and I played that over and over again. I really felt this guy was going to be able to help me and was just what I needed! It was probably at the second session, that I attached to him. I had no idea what was happening. A few months later, I came to PC to find out more as I thought I must be highly aberrant to have this relationship with my T. But I found out that is normal and a signifier of high potential for progress in therapy. So I was reassured and have been here ever since.

I like attachment, connection, feeling close to my T, sharing with him--all that stuff.