((((Miss C))))
This is certainly a very interesting topic to explore. I want that attachment that you have with your T, but I'm just not there yet emotionally, though I think I'm doing well with letting down my walls slowly and trusting her more with things I've never told anyone else -that's HUGE for me. As for my mother... I love her, I just have always felt more like her caregiver instead of the other way around, and I'm discovering that some of my earlier needs were not met. My T recently referred to my mother as narcissistic, whoa! I need to ask T more about that.
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Originally Posted by ECHOES
I am reading Attachment in Psychotherapy, a great book. There is a lot about our attachment to our primary caregiver, whether it's secure or insecure, and goes on to talk about secondary attachement strategies we develop. Very good stuff, and very helpful to me to understanding myself, now and then.
I also came upon an interesting question the other day: is bonding the same as attachment? I don't think so, but I'm exploring it more  |
ECHOES, that book does sound very interesting - I may have to pick it up!
To me, bonding is something that usually comes out of a common interest. For instance, we are bonding right now as we talk about our experiences related to psychotherapy. But (no offense) I don't feel like I'm becoming attached to anyone. Now, some might say that this is because we're bonding online. I've bonded with people in person over commonalities, but I didn't feel myself attaching to them. Am I understanding your definition of bonding, ECHOES, or am I making it too broad of a generalization?